Hello, my name is Pach Deng and I’m a 23-year-old recent college graduate — majoring in Psychology and Sport Science. My mom migrated to Australia with my family to start a new life after living in a refugee camp as a result of war breaking out in Sudan.
I was born in a refugee camp in Kenya, raised in Adelaide, South Australia and now live in Melbourne with my family.
I’m currently a freelance writer and podcaster ‘Patience Mindset’ — looking to work in sports media.
We all have that annoying inner critic voice in our heads. It stops most people from pursuing opportunities for growth as a result of fear or self-imposed beliefs. Our inner critic voice is so nagging and believable — if you are not careful, it will have you thinking negative and unkind thoughts about yourself.
Some people believe their inner critic is there to motivate them to become better, however that could not be further from the truth.
It’s important to understand that your inner critic isn’t driven by logic, so arguing with it is a waste of time. …
Why do we have a tendency to attribute “natural talent” to people who excel in their field?
Most of us are born with natural talents, so it feels as if some of us excel without really trying. Those of us who do seem to find success easily boost a good work ethic as the main factor. We try to downplay our efforts because — we feel our talent does the talking for us.
What about those of us who don’t have a natural talent?
We’ve been told all of our lives that if you work hard, you can become successful. We believe our natural talent gives us an advantage in a competitive market. …
Are you plagued by your past?
For a long time — my past had control over me. I had a very rocky relationship with my parents — filled with anger and resentment about the past. My mind screamed about the “should haves” and “ought to be’s”. I kept an endless list about what I deserved but thought I had missed out on.
There were periods of no communication and many arguments as we tried and failed repeatedly to find a way of meeting.
Until I saw the light.
In a moment of insight, I took responsibility for my own happiness. I saw that my anger was preventing me from experiencing the ease and well-being that I desperately wanted — so I stopped feeding it. No more stories about what should have been, no more blaming or waiting for solutions. …
I’m not mentally strong. I mask my insecurities — so others don’t see them. I worry too much about what others think of me.
I fear regret, failure — rejection and being judged.
I’ve let my anxiety controlled my decisions — leading to bad choices and missing opportunities for personal growth.
I’ve believed I’ve not good enough and felt hopeless. Until I came across an ancient stoic practice called negative visualisation — imagining worst-case scenarios in life.
It completed changed my perspective and mindset.
Let’s face it, we are all becoming so self-absorbed.
The Western world is so self-help craze — the imperative to perform and be flexible and optimise yourself all the time has become pathological.
We want to avoid pain at all cost. We’ve become so obsessed with looking inward and trying to achieve our ideas, that it’s actually making us less equipped to be a human on the outside.
You know — the type that’s actually connected to other people.
There’s this notion we’re supposed to be happy all the time, which — turns out, is a hard thing to do when you’re constantly being told you can do and be better, and more positive, and more productive. …
If you are like me, you probably struggle with productivity when it comes to writing.
Don’t worry, you are not alone. Productivity is something we all struggle with as content creators. I’m learning the more productive you are — the better your writing will be. You probably search on google how to be more productivity — but most strategies don’t really work.
Let’s define productivity. Productivity is a measure of efficiency of a person completing a task. We often assume that productivity means getting more things done each day. Wrong.
Productivity is getting important things done consistently — whether you’re a writer or professional athlete. …
For a long time I’ve always struggled with getting enough quality sleep every night.
I would wake up groggy every morning, feeling like I was hit by a car — and could never wake up early. You probably guessed I’m not a morning person until I discovered my daily habits were contributing to my sleep. I slept at different times every night. That all changed the moment I incorporated these simple daily habits.
The quality of my sleep slowly got better — at first, I was able to sleep peacefully, then wake up earlier and had enough time in the morning to write. …
Do you ever wonder what separates average person from someone that’s mentally fit?
Both individuals are capable of achieving their fitness goals — may go to gym and lift weights. Or push themselves during intensive runs, ending in drench sweat. But something that separates both of them — their mentality and self-talk.
To become reasonably fit — you need to be able to push yourself past your comfort zones. Avoid junk food and showing up when you don’t feel like it.
It takes a strong mindset, discipline and consistency to maintain a high level of mental fitness. …
You know that feeling you get when someone walks slowly on a busy sideways, gets on your nerves, or talks too much during a movie — and your initial reaction is to respond quickly.
That is what they call giving away your power — to people or situation.
It’s something we are all guilty of — myself included. When you are offended, teased or annoyed by someone, your first reaction is to get angry and protect your ego. …